What if this time you went for one single permanent resolution? One that is powerful yet flexible enough to accommodate any change of circumstance?
In fact, the only resolution you need is being aligned with your purpose.
What does that even mean, you might be asking.
It means, first and foremost, knowing yourself better. What do you stand for? Your purpose is not something that lies in the future, the prize you will get if you overcome the challenges down the road. Your purpose is what you get up to every day.
Being aligned with your purpose is about asking yourself, every day, how you can be truthful to yourself. It is checking in on the person you already are (a person strong enough to have done everything you’ve done, including moving to Geneva), and seeing what you can do to be your best self most of the time.
It also means making choices based on your purpose. Not out of habit, fear of missing out or third-party expectations. This applies to big decisions as well as small, everyday things. By letting your best self take the lead more and more often, you can make small changes that have a huge impact.
Do you see the difference? The focus here is not on everything that is lacking. Instead, it is on possibilities. It is about daring to be yourself and creating a life with meaning, instead of checking boxes.
From the place you are now, from the stuff you are made of, you are going to reach further and bolder. Always celebrating who you are, never denying it.
Practicing alignment does not get you off the hook on your promises to yourself. On the contrary. You can establish specific goals based on this connection with your purpose and commit to them from a much deeper place.
How to practice alignment
Ok, I’m game to try. How do you do this, anyway?
Practicing alignment is listening to yourself so that your purpose can guide your actions.
The first step is getting clarity about who you are and what you stand for. I like to use a variety of exercises with my clients, including Simon Sinek’s WHY discovery process and Ikigai. This is the starting point of a commitment to the only person who can change things in your life: yourself.
Once you know yourself better, take time every day to check in on yourself. You can start by doing 3 minutes of connection to yourself every morning/evening. If sitting still is not your thing, you can take a walk. Your goal is to create this inner quietness to let whatever is inside you express itself.
It may take some time until you feel comfortable with being in contact with your (deeper) self, for the simple reason that, while we are constantly exposed to Instagram feelgood messages, we don’t usually learn much about sitting with our own stuff.
Write it all down. It doesn’t have to be a long paragraph or even stylistically beautiful. Try to translate into words what you realized and what you want to do about this “new” information. Note all the feelings and ideas that come to you, and the actions you feel inspired to take (and when, if applicable).
Remember, change usually takes place gradually. It’s important to keep a record of your path so that you can congratulate yourself on small progress, understand trends and adjust your actions accordingly.
When making decisions throughout the day, refer back to this moment of connection and to your purpose. Does the opportunity before you bring you closer to your best self? Will it help you achieve the goals you established based on your connection?
Being aligned to yourself will mean saying no as much as saying yes. Your purpose will be your compass, your guide when you find it hard to say no to something that is not aligned with who you are, or when you feel too overwhelmed to move on.